Behaviour change for family violence
Change how you act when it boils over at home.
One-to-one counselling for anyone who wants to stop being violent, threatening or controlling with a partner or family. Referred by a court or Corrections, or coming on your own.
If someone is in danger now, call 000. If you are worried about your own behaviour, MensLine Australia is open at any hour on 1300 78 99 78.
What it helps with
Much of Phil’s work has been with people referred by the Queensland Domestic and Family Violence Court and Queensland Corrective Services.
- Anger that turns into shouting, threats or violence
- Controlling behaviour: checking phones, money, or who someone sees
- Jealousy and suspicion that take over
- Court-ordered or Corrections referrals
- Drinking or drug use that makes it worse
- Wanting your children to feel safe around you
What happens in the seconds before.
An example of how a session pulls one moment apart, so you can act differently next time.
Your kids not scared of you.
Heat, fast, when you feel disrespected.
“They pushed me to it.”
Shouting, a fist on the wall, a door slammed.
Notice the heat, leave the room, come back when you’re calm.
Everyone’s safety comes first. The plan you build covers what you do when the heat starts, every time.
How Phil works
Honest, direct and on your side about changing. Not on your side about the violence.
The work starts with a full assessment: what happens, when, and what sits underneath it. Then it follows the letters in CEABA. The change you want, the emotion that comes first, the beliefs that excuse it, what you do, and what you will do instead.
Phil looks at power and control, how thinking, biology and the people around you feed into it, and how alcohol or drugs play a part. You leave each session with something to practise before the next one.
If a court or Queensland Corrective Services referred you, tell Phil on your free call so he can talk through how the referral works.
Questions people ask
Can a court or Corrections refer me?
Yes. Phil has worked extensively with the Queensland Domestic and Family Violence Court and Queensland Corrective Services, and all referrals are welcome. You can also come on your own.
Is what I say kept private?
Yes, within the limits of the law. If someone’s safety is at serious risk, Phil may have to act on it. He explains this at your first session.
Is this the same as couples counselling?
No. This is one-to-one work on your own behaviour. If you are the person experiencing violence, see support if you are experiencing violence.
Do I have to come in person?
No. Sessions run in person in Logan, by video or by phone. Phil can also come to your home or a place in the community for a call-out fee of $20 an hour.
What if I need help right now?
CEABA is not a crisis service. If you are in danger, call 000. For support at any hour, call Lifeline on 13 11 14. More support lines